Emilio Delarosa strangled Wanda Rose to death as their 4-year-old son, who was in bed with her, pleaded with Delarosa to spare his mother’s life.
This was not the first time Delarosa had attacked Rosa. He’d been terrorizing her for years. In fact, in 2012, he pleaded guilty to charges of attempted murder, kidnapping, and assault and battery causing serious bodily injury after he tried to take Rosa and their son to Florida against her will. Delarosa was sentenced to four years in prison.
But Rosa relented and modified the restraining order that she had against Delarosa after he was released so that he could have a relationship with their son.
“From the outside,” says Yvonne Abraham, “it looks like Rosa had choices during her years of misery. And it looks like she made the wrong ones.”
While her choices may seem perplexing, even masochistic to some, Abraham notes that these are “the kinds of choices — if they are choices at all — abuse victims make every single day.”
Maybe we think we’d do better in the same circumstances. “But it takes time and money and confidence to start a whole new life,” Abraham reminds us, “and Rosa possessed none of those. …And sometimes, running away means leaving everybody who loves you. Leaving can seem like moving to Mars.”