Some friendships will last a lifetime but that’s not the norm. Most often, says Cari Romm, people tend to “float in and out of your life as you change, or they change, or circumstances change.”
“In fact, as you enter your 30s, you begin to shed a lot of the friends you made in your earlier years. In most cases, that doesn’t mean you’ve banished those people from your life forever; it just means you’ve gone in different directions. Maybe someday you’ll find your way back,” notes Romm.
But reviving an old friendship that’s gone cold requires some effort and finesse, argues Irene Levine, a psychiatry professor at NYU and the author of Best Friends Forever: Surviving a Breakup With Your Best Friend.
In a way, it’s more difficult to restart an old friendship that comes with baggage than starting from scratch with someone new. But there are ways to avoid certain pitfalls and jumpstart a friendship you think is worth having, again.