My daughter just entered Middle School and it was and still is a process that has been filled with anxiety. As in most transitions, the build up to the actual day was far worse than anything she experienced once she got to school.
While many kids are able to right themselves and move forward not all kids are as lucky. The lingering effects of toxic thinking don’t just slip away. The “how am I going to keep up” or “I have never done that before so how am I going to know how to do it?” are pervasive thoughts that can interfere with a healthy and successful experience not only in school but in life. Parents need to be aware of this kind of thinking and help their kids to find ways to change the pattern.
According to Mary Alvord,
For parents, the idea is not to squelch the negative thought. Research has found that attempted “thought stopping” can actually make the idea stickier. Rather, you want your child to face the thought, thoroughly examine it and replace it with a more realistic and helpful perspective.
Chronic anxiety and depression affect children. Dismissing it or telling a kid to just get over or stop thinking so negatively is not the answer. Creating strategies for success are important.